Today on Feminine Roadmap guest and love coach Jerica Jech shares her journey of being suddenly single and midlife dating. At 48 Jerica found herself divorced and single which wasn’t how she thought her life would be. Since she didn’t want to stay single, she faced the prospect of midlife dating in an online world. With this prospect Jerica decided that she need to find a way to navigate her emotional process from divorce and figure out who she was and what she really wanted in a relationship. What Jerica realized was that dating is a very important selection process that can be fun as well as educational- you learn about yourself and how to trust your intuition. She encourages single women to practice radical self-care, socialize, exercise, learn new skills, and stay connected to a solid community of friends so that they can become the best version of themselves and attract the kind of partner they are looking for. Jerica wants to flip the script about online dating from negative and frustrating to seeing it as a fun and useful tool to meet new and interesting people, most of whom will not be the right match for you but that’s ok! By removing the pressure to “find the one” you can enjoy these “interviews” with people and only date the ones that can pass the interview. IF you or a girlfriend find yourself suddenly single and online dating, grab a cuppa something wonderful and press play to be encouraged by some practical strategies to make midlife dating a lot more fun! http://www.feminineroadmap.com/episode192/

SHOW NOTES:

3:42 How long should you wait to date?

“People might say there are rules and that you should wait a certain amount of time but actually there are no rules… most of these rules we impose on ourselves.”

9:14 Jerica’s process of healing

“One thing that was super important about that time is that I allowed myself to have all kinds of different types of feelings and that will happen in divorce. I felt things that I’d never felt before.”

18:37 Viewing dating as a selection process

“Most people don’t actually want to be dating, they don’t want to date, they just want to be in a relationship, be married and have it done.”

27:55 Why do online dating and how to use it tactically

37:26 Questions to ask yourself and rules about texting

44:38 What is your focus and goal

52:01 Jessica’s key takeaways

RESOURCES:

jericalovecoach.com

IG: LoveCoachJerica

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