Yes you can restore your marriage in these unprecedented times of pressure and challenge. Today’s guest Tod Jacobs, co-author of “Not a Partnership” Why We Keep Getting Marriage Wrong and How We Can Get It Right”, brings over 15 years of marriage counseling and training experience to our current world situation in 2020. Quarantine has brought a lot of uncertainty, change, pressure and stress to our everyday lives and marriages have become a major casualty if you listen to all the media has to say about it. In today’s episode Tod’s answer brings hope and practical strategies to help marriages not only survive but thrive. Using the analogy of the power of heat and pressure on diamonds, Tod shifts the perspective from hardship working against your marriage to the elements that can actually build a marriage that is strong and beautiful. Often we find ourselves neglecting the most valuable relationship that we possess over time as we begin to go through the motions in our marriages. How do we begin to reawaken our marriages and break the monotony that has settled in? How do we create the environment that will enhance and improve our marriages by degrees? How do we shift our mindsets and in turn our marriages? Yes you can restore your marriage and help it thrive. Grab a cuppa something wonderful and start the journey today! http://www.feminineroadmap.com/episode197/
SHOW NOTES:
4:40 Shifting the marital mindset
“It’s going to be a function of the mindset you go into this with and the learning curve you’re willing to accept. Assuming that you go in with goodwill, good humor and you can laugh with each other and at yourselves, you can get through this and become that diamond.”
10:04 What can we do to start the breaking that monotony?
“That is the cosmic moment that people have to say, ‘Wait a minute. These differences are the things that if I can learn how to not only live with them and tolerate them but actually appreciate them, and realize that what she has I don’t have and what I have that she doesn’t have can come together and create a wholeness that’s bigger than the both of us.’ “
20:18 How the deepening process over the years grows marriage
“Any of these pieces of work that you do are really forms of giving to the other and any form of giving to the other is a way of kickstarting your marriage.”
27:04 Getting into a virtuous cycle in spite of the challenges of the current world pressures
39:00 Back to basics and prioritizing each other
47:55 The value of acting your best self – aspirational behavior
55:38 Tod’s 3 key questions to help get your marriage back on track
RESOURCES:
“Not a Partnership: Why We Keep Getting Marriage Wrong and How We Can Get It Right” Tod Jacobs and Peter Lynn
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